Many of our clients find it helpful to read books on topics that are relevant to their concerns. Below are suggested books we have found to be useful for our clients. If you have suggestions for books to read, please let us know the title and author – you can email them to me at email@example.com
Abuse – My Own Abuse
Bass, Ellen, & Davis., Laura. (1992). Bass, Ellen, & Davis., Laura. (1992). The Courage to Heal. New York: HarperPerennial Publishers. (Has an appendix/chapter for partners of survivors.)
Bass, Ellen, & Davis, Laura. (1993). Beginning to Heal: A first book for survivors of child sexual abuse. New York: HarperPerennial Publishers
Bear, Euan, & Dimock, Peter T. (1988). Adults Molested As Children: A Survivor’s Manual For Women And Men. Safer Society Series Number Four. Orwell, VT: Safer Society Press. (Chapter Five: “For Lovers and Others.” Excellent chapter as an introduction for partners who have just discovered their partner is a survivor.)
Blume, E. Sue. (1990). Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest & Its Aftereffects in Women. New York: Ballantine Books, Inc.
Cheston, Sharon E. (1994). As You and the Abused Person Journey Together. Paulist Press. Paperback, 80 pp. ISBN: 0809135132
Haines, Staci. (1999). The Survivor’s Guide to Great Sex : How to Have a Great Sex Life – Even if You’ve Been Sexually Abused. Cleis Press. Paperback, 1st ed., 200pp. ISBN: 1573440795
Hunter, Mic. Thomas, Jane R., ed. (1992). Joyous Sexuality: Healing from the Effects of Family Sexual Dysfunction. Hazelden Foundation. Paperback, 143 pp. ISBN: 0896382710
Kirschner, Sam, Ph.D. et al. (1993). Working With Adult Incest Survivors/the Healing Journey (Frontiers in Couples and Family Therapy, No 6). Brunner/Mazel; Hardcover – 232 pages ISBN: 0876306911
Lew, Mike. “Victims No Longer: the Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse.”
Abuse – My Partner’s/Family Member’s Abuse
Barshinger, Clarke E. & Larowe, Lojan E. (1995). Haunted Marriage; Overcoming the Ghosts of Your Spouse’s Childhood Abuse. Intervarsity Press, USA.
Brewster, Susan. (1997) To Be an Anchor in the Storm : A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women. New York: Ballantine Books, Inc.
Browne, Marie, with Browne, Marlene (2007). If the Man You Love Was Abused . Avon , MA : Adams Media.
Cameron, Grant. (1995). What about me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse. Carp, Ontario, Canada: Creative Bound Publishers, Inc. Visit http://www.home.istar.ca/~gcameron/ABUSE.HTM.
Courtright, John, & Rogers, Sid, Dr. (1994). Your Wife Was Sexually Abused. (With discussion guide.) Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House. (Christian-centered book)
Davis, Laura (1991). Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child, a Support Book for Partners. New York: HarperPerennial.
DeBeixedon, Yvette S. (1995). Lovers & Survivors: A Partner’s Guide to Living with & Loving a Sexual Abuse Survivor.. San Francisco, CA: Robert D. Reed Publishers. Available at self-help sections in bookstores nationwide.
Engel, Beverly. (1993). Partners in Recovery: How Mates, Lovers, & Other ProSurvivors Can Learn to Support & Cope with Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. New York: Fawcett Books.
Engel, Beverly. (1995). Families in Recovery. Lowell House.
Gil, Eliana. (1992). Outgrowing the Pain Together: A Book for Spouses & Partners of Adults Abused as Children. New York: Dell Trade Publishing, Inc.
Graber, Ken. (1991). Ghosts in the Bedroom; A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications.
Hansen, Paul. Survivors and Partners: Healing the Relationships of Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. ISBN: 0962996041
Landry, Dorothy. Family Fallout: A Handbook for Families of Adult Sexual Abuse Survivors. Safer Society Press: Orwell, VT. 1991. $12.95 paper. ISBN: 1884444059.
Levine, Robert Larry. (1996). When You Are the Partner of a Rape or Incest Survivor: A Workbook for You. San Jose, CA: Resource Publications. ISBN: 0893903299
Loulan, JoAnn. (1987). Lesbian Passion: Loving ourselves and each other. San Francisco, CA: Spinsters/Aunt Lute Publishers. Available at self-help sections in bookstores nationwide. : (Has chapter for survivors, and chapter for partners.)
Matsakis, Aphrodite. (1998). TRUST AFTER TRAUMA: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
McEvoy, Alan, Brookings, Jeff, and Rollo, Debbie, eds. (1999). If He Is Raped: A Guidebook for Parents, Mates, and Friends . Holmes Beach , FL : Learning Publications.
McEvoy, A. and J. Brookings. If She is Raped: A Book for Husbands, Fathers and Male Friends. Florida: Learning Publications, Inc. 1984. ASIN: 0918452554 This title is out of print
Mease, Bill. How Can I Help Him? : A Handbook For Partners of Men Sexually Abused as Children. ASIN: 0894868446 This title is out of print.
Spear, Joan. How Can I Help Her? A Handbook for Partners of Women Sexually Abused as Children. Center City, MN: Hazelden Education Materials, 1991. (612) 257-4010. Booklet for $3.00.
Stark, Kathe. (1993). Helping the Adult Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse; For Friends, Family and Lovers. Mother Courage Press. W., Nancy. (1990’s). Embracing the Journey. MN: Hazleden Publications.
Washington Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs. Partners in Healing: A Handbook for Partners of Rape Survivors. Washington: 1992.
Woititz, Janet G. (1993). The Intimacy Struggle; A New Version of the Struggle for Intimacy. Revised Edition. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.